Can men and women be friends? I really do not think there is a definitive answer to this question. I think is depends on the circumstances and the people involved. It also depends largely on the depth of the friendship.
If you are not attracted to each other, then it is simple. However, it is more likely to be the case that one or other of you are not attracted to the other person but not both. In my experience, if I am friends with a man, it is usually because I am attracted to him or he is attracted to me. It goes without saying that if the attraction is mutual, then a friendship will be difficult.
I think the real problem here is the connection and depth of the friendship. I think that it is difficult for a man and a woman to be friends if a real connection develops – and if the friendship develops depth. I think it is only natural – when a heterosexual man and a woman have any kind of relationship – to have a question mark hanging over the relationship...even subconsciously.
Would you be able to have a friendship with a member of the opposite sex without wondering – at least once – what it would be like to be with them?
If, however, you have already been with the person and it didn’t work, then perhaps a friendship could work. You tried it. It didn’t work. You’ve accepted that and moved on. As long as one or other of you is not still in love.
So I guess the answer is to befriend people you are not attracted to – which seems unlikely since connection is attraction and still doesn’t help if they are attracted to you – or ensure that those kinds of friendships remain reasonably shallow
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