What happens if you get married and for many years you are happily married until you meet the person you feel you should have married?
Is it really true that this is the person you should have married? Do we have more than one soul mate? Will we meet another person in another few years who could also have been the person we should have married? Is it that in the intervening years, you have changed? Or your needs and values have changed? Or is it that you didn’t know what you wanted until you met this person?
Whatever the reason, what do you do about it? It’s obviously imperative that you ascertain whether this feeling is really about the person involved or whether it is about something going on in your life. Maybe you are bored in your current relationship – and there is no guarantee that you wouldn’t be bored with this new person either in a few years. And if you are bored, you need to take accountability for that. Relationships don’t look after themselves, they need to be created and nurtured. Half of that is up to you.
But I digress: what happens if you genuinely believe that this new person is the right one for you? I think this must be one of the toughest decisions in life. It’s such a risk to leave your current partner and hope that the new relationship works. Could you live with your decision either way? There could be so much anger and hurt and yet, we only get one life, shouldn’t we be happy?
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