To find true love, be your true self..

If you want to find a true love, you have to be yourself. I know this sounds obvious and easy, but I don’t think that it is. We are raised in a society where we learn what characteristics are desirable and which are not. Consequently, we try to mould ourselves around that image – as created by society and not by us.

We also try to live by the values and standards of other people – people that we admire or respect. While in many cases, it can be admirable and a good thing to follow the lead of someone we respect, it is not necessarily who we are. We may have personality traits that we don’t like because they are less desirable by society’s or our family’s standards and so we try to suppress those aspects of ourselves. It is this suppression that suppresses our authenticity. If you are going to be yourself, you cannot be half of yourself or most of yourself, you have to be your whole self, or you are trying to be someone else.

As soon as you are trying to be someone else, you are attracting a partner for someone else and the relationship will only succeed as long as you are happy to continue the façade.

You, as a whole person, good and bad, are lovable. Accept it, get used to it and then hold on, because here comes real love…

http://www.fb.co.id/blogs/6425/837/to-find-true-love-be-your-true

Communication

I find it amazing how many relationships fall apart because of something quite simple that is missing: communication. I watch many women going into great detail about their relationship problems with their friends, so that their friends have a much clearer idea of what the problem is than their partner. What is the purpose of that? How are we ever supposed to remedy any situation if our partners either a) don’t know what the problem is or b) don’t even know that there is a problem. I have made this mistake many times in my past and current relationship(s), but the good news is that I am finally learning. Every time I feel that I have been treated badly, I remember something essential: it is never my partner’s intention to hurt me. Therefore I need to stop feeling hurt, angry, affronted, etc, when I don’t need to be.

Most of my partner’s behaviour that may cause me upset, it actually a result of a misunderstanding or a miscommunication.

You can see now that simple communication can fix these hurt feelings. There is often no way to prevent the situations from happening, but the anger and upset can be avoided if we just remember that our partner was not intending to hurt us. This immediately makes us look for a more reasonable and probably more likelyexplanation.

The next challenge of course is for us to stop enjoying the drama of hurt feelings. Spend that energy elsewhere.

http://www.fb.co.id/blogs/6425/838/communication

Pengertian Biaya Produksi dan Fungsi Produksi

Pengertian Biaya

BIAYA = COST :

SEMUA PENGELUARAN YANG DAPAT DIUKUR DENGAN UANG, BAIK YANG TELAH, SEDANG, MAUPUN YANG AKAN DIKELUARKAN UNTUK MENGHASILKAN PRUDUK.

BIAYA = NILAI UANG YANG DIKELUARKAN UNTUK MENGGANTIKAN MANFAAT YANG DIPEROLEH.

BIAYA  (COST)  DIANGGAP AKAN MEMBERI  MANFAAT PADA MASA YANG AKAN DATANG,

ISTILAH ONGKOS (EXPENSE) DIGUNAKAN SBG BIAYA YG DIKELUARKAN UNTUK MENGHASILKAN PRESTASI.

PENGGOLONGAN BIAYA:

BERDASARKAN PROSES / KLASIFIKASI

SECARA NATURAL

(KETERLIBATAN BIAYA DLM PEMBUATAN PRODUK): 

        a. BIAYA MANUFAKTURING ATAU PRODUKSI

                JENIS BIAYA:       

                - BIAYA METERIAL LANGSUNG,

                - UPAH/BIAYA PEKERJA/TENAGA KERJA LANGSUNG

                - BIAYA OVERHEAD PABRIK (TIDAK LANGSUNG)

        b. BIAYA KOMERSIL :

                - BIAYA ADMINISTRASI

                - BIAYA PEMASARAN / MARKETING & DISTRIBUSI

PERKIRAAN BIAYA :

The art of approximating kemungkinan jumlah biaya yang diperlukan untuk suatu kegiatan didasarkan atas informasi terkini.

ANGGARAN BIAYA :

Perencanaan rinci perkiraan biaya dari kegiatan yang dikaitkan dengan waktu.

2.BERDASARKAN VOLUME PRODUKSI

BIAYA = FUNGSI ( VOLUME, WAKTU KERJA).

BIAYA TOTAL  = (BIAYA TETAP + BIAYA VARIABEL + BIAYA SEMI VARIABEL)

       

a.   BIAYA BERUBAH (VARIABLE COST) 

PERUBAHANNYA BERBANDING  PROPOSIONAL DENGANVOLUME PRODUKSI

b.   BIAYA TETAP (FIXED COST)

BIAYA YG TIDAK BERUBAH DAN BUKAN FUNGSI DARI PERUBAHAN VOLUME PRODUKSI, BIAYA INI TIMBUL SAAT PABRIK BERPRODUKSI MAUPUN TIDAK BERPRODUKSI.

Contoh Biaya

BIAYA TETAP:

GAJI MANAJER

DEPRESIASI ALAT / MESIN

SEWA, ASURANSI, PATEN

PERAWATAN MESIN

BIAYA VARIABEL:

HARGA MATERIAL, BAHAN BAKAR

UPAH BURUH LANGSUNG

BIAYA  ENERGI,REKLAMASI

BIAYA LEMBUR

BIAYA SEMI VARIABEL :

SUPERVISI, INSPEKSI, BIAYA PERSEDIAAN

ENERGI, GAJI PERSONEL HUMAS

ASURANSI KESEHATAN, KOMPENSASI ASURANSI

PERAWATAN DAN PERBAIKAN MESIN / PERALATAN

Untuk menjalankan produksi diperlukan tenaga kerja, bahan-bahan dasar, alat-alat dan mesin, bahan bakar, dan sebagainya, yaitu sumber-sumber daya ekonomi atau faktor-faktor produksi. Untuk menentukan harga jual produk serta untuk dapat menentukan apakah suatu usaha itu rendabel, semua biaya produksi harus diperhitungkan dengan seteliti mungkin. Perhitungan semua biaya yang perlu dikeluarkan untuk menghasilkan suaru barang/jasa sampai barang tersebut terjual disebut “kalkulasi harga pokok“.

Pengertian Biaya

Dalam ilmu ekonomi biaya diartikan, semua pengorbanan yang perlu untuk suatu proses produksi, dinyatakan dalam uang menurut harga pasar yang berlaku. Dalam definisi ini ada empat unsur yang perlu diperhatikan:

a.Pengorbanan
Pengorbanan yang sesungguhnya adalah pemakaian faktor-faktor produksi atau sumber-sumber ekonomis bahan-bahan yang harus dipakai, waktu dan tenaga yang dicurahkan, peralatan dan mesin yang terpakai, upah karyawan yang harus dibayar, dan sebagainya.

Masalah pertama yang dihadapi oleh produsen adalah menentukan berapa jumlah pengorbanan tersebut. Untuk itu semua pengorbanan harus diukur dengan teliti (dikuantitatifkan): berapa kg bahan yang habis terpakai, berapa jam kerja yang telah dicurahkan untuk menyelesaikan suatu pekerjaan, berapa jam mesin yang diperlukan untuk pembuatan suatu barang, dan sebagainya.

b.Pengorbanan yang perlu untuk produksi
Yang dihitung sebagai biaya hanyalah pengorbanan yang perlu saja, artinya yang tidak dapat dihindarkan. Jadi, pemborosan bahan atau waktu yang sebenarnya tidak perlu itu seharusnya tidak ikut dihitung sebagai biaya.

c. Dinilai dalam
Semua biaya produksi dinilai dalam uang. Pengeluaran yang memang harus dibayar dengan uang, seperti harga beli bahan-bahan atau gaji pegawai, sudah dengan sendirinya termasuk perhitungan biaya. Tetapi dapat tejadi bahwa ada hal-hal yang sebenrnya termasuk biaya produksi — tetapi tidak dibayar dengan uang. Misalnya, tenaga sendiri atau bahan-bahan yang diambil dari kebun sendiri. Karena tidak menyangkut pengeluaran uang, maka kerap kali juga tidak dihitung sebagai biaya. Padahal sebenarnya tenaga sendiri dan bahan-bahan itu juga harus ikut diperhitungkan sebagai biaya, meskipun tidak berupa pengeluaran uang.

Contoh lain adalah penyusutan gedung dan alat-alat produksi, yang betul-betul termasuk biaya, biar pun tidak ada satu sen pun dikeluarkan untuk itu. Biaya seperti itu, yang secara ekonomis harus dihitung sebagai biaya produksi tetapi bukan merupakan pengeluaran uang, sering juga disebut biaya implisit.

Bagaimana caranya pengorbanan atau biaya yang tidak menyangkut pengeluaran uangmmhamuadiperhituntglnan?Biaya-biaya tenanbundinilaidalamuaag,yammdiaannakan dengan harga yang umum berlaku dalam masyarakat untuk hal-hal seperti itu. Misalnya, harga pasar untuk basil kebun sendiri, untuk upah tarif yang bertaku umum, dan seterusnya. Cara ini dalam ilmu ekonomi disebut biaya alternadf (alternative cost atau opportunity cost).”

d. Menurut barna pasar yang berlaku
Kalau biaya harus dinilai dalam uang, nilai atau harga yang manakah yang harus dipakai? Di atas sudah disinggung bahwa yang dipakai adalah harga pasar yang berlaku.

Banyak orang memperhitungkan nilai bahan atau barang sama dengan harga yang dulu telah dibayar untuk membeli barang/bahan tersebut atau disebut “harga perolehan“. Tetapi berapa yang dulu dibayar untuk membeli suatu barang itu sebenarnya tidak penting lagi. Apalagi dalam masa kenaikan harga umum (inflasi). Agar suatu usaha bisa berjalan tarus (agar kontinuitas usaha terjamin), yang lebih panting adalah berapa harga yang harus dibayar sekarang kalau membeli barang yang sama lagi. Jadi yang dipakai sebagai pedoman untuk penentuan besarnya biaya dalam kalkulasi harga pokok adalah harga pasar yang berlaku sekarang (=pada saat penjualan) meskipun dahulu mungkin dibeli dengan harga yang lebih rendah atau lebih mahal.

Pustaka: Pengantar Ilmu Ekonomi Mikro Oleh Drs. T. Gilarso, SJ.

http://artikelekonomi.com/aspek-yang-mempengaruhi-biaya-produksi.html

Sedangkan fungsi produksi adalah untuk membantu ekonomi secara umumnya dan juga untuk meningkatkan taraf hidup juga,dengan adanya produksi secara tidak lagnsung menambah lapangan kerja dan dapat menyediakan berbagai produk ke masyarakat luas

Can men and women be just friends?

Can men and women be friends? I really do not think there is a definitive answer to this question. I think is depends on the circumstances and the people involved. It also depends largely on the depth of the friendship.

If you are not attracted to each other, then it is simple. However, it is more likely to be the case that one or other of you are not attracted to the other person but not both. In my experience, if I am friends with a man, it is usually because I am attracted to him or he is attracted to me. It goes without saying that if the attraction is mutual, then a friendship will be difficult.

I think the real problem here is the connection and depth of the friendship. I think that it is difficult for a man and a woman to be friends if a real connection develops – and if the friendship develops depth. I think it is only natural – when a heterosexual man and a woman have any kind of relationship – to have a question mark hanging over the relationship...even subconsciously.

Would you be able to have a friendship with a member of the opposite sex without wondering – at least once – what it would be like to be with them?

If, however, you have already been with the person and it didn’t work, then perhaps a friendship could work. You tried it. It didn’t work. You’ve accepted that and moved on. As long as one or other of you is not still in love.

So I guess the answer is to befriend people you are not attracted to – which seems unlikely since connection is attraction and still doesn’t help if they are attracted to you – or ensure that those kinds of friendships remain reasonably shallow

thanks to

http://www.fb.co.id/blogs/6425/792/can-men-and-women-be-just-friend

there's no such thing as perfect love

Something that I think is essential information for anyone in a committed or long-term relationship
– or anyone hoping to one day be in a committed or long-term relationship is that things will not
always be perfect.
I know this sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people enter into relationships and
marriages with unrealistic expectations. They think that if you love someone, that love will always
automatically be there and as long as the love is there, everything else will fall into place. That kind
of thinking puts a lot of pressure on the partner involved and indeed on the relationship.
The fact is, in any long-term relationship, love takes work. It needs to be nurtured. There will be
days when you wake up and don’t feel like being with that person. There will be times when you
look at your partner and think, ‘Who are you?’ or ‘I am not attracted to you.’
The important – and in fact, crucial – thing to remember here is that the feeling will most likely
pass. Of course, if you find yourself thinking that all the time, then maybe it is time to move on, but
in general, these feelings come and go in a relationship. It’s vital that you accept that as a normal
part of a relationship and don’t overanalyse it. Go with it and you will soon find yourself back in
love with that person wondering what happened and so grateful that you didn’t throw in the towel


Thanks to
http://www.fb.co.id/blogs/6425/789/there-s-no-such-thing-as-perfect

Just when you thought your love life was great..

What happens if you get married and for many years you are happily married until you meet the person you feel you should have married?

Is it really true that this is the person you should have married? Do we have more than one soul mate? Will we meet another person in another few years who could also have been the person we should have married? Is it that in the intervening years, you have changed? Or your needs and values have changed? Or is it that you didn’t know what you wanted until you met this person?

Whatever the reason, what do you do about it? It’s obviously imperative that you ascertain whether this feeling is really about the person involved or whether it is about something going on in your life. Maybe you are bored in your current relationship – and there is no guarantee that you wouldn’t be bored with this new person either in a few years. And if you are bored, you need to take accountability for that. Relationships don’t look after themselves, they need to be created and nurtured. Half of that is up to you.

But I digress: what happens if you genuinely believe that this new person is the right one for you? I think this must be one of the toughest decisions in life. It’s such a risk to leave your current partner and hope that the new relationship works. Could you live with your decision either way? There could be so much anger and hurt and yet, we only get one life, shouldn’t we be happy?

thanks to

http://www.fb.co.id/blogs/6425/791/just-when-you-thought-your-love

Eyes and Ears

Men fall in love through their eyes. They are attracted by beautiful things. That’s pretty obvious. In contrast, women fall in love through their ears. what do I mean? I mean a man can win a woman over by telling her the ‘right’ things...so that she hears all the ‘right’ things. So let this be a warning to all women out there: be careful ofsmooth talkers. These are the men that are brilliant at charming women. The know what to say and when to say it and how to make a women feel good. On the outside, it may sound like a good thing – and it can be if he is your partner and he only charms you, but these kind of men are usually not content with charming only one women. It’s a skill and a talent and should be used and enjoyed by many.

I am not suggesting that should you encounter one of these sweet talkers, you shouldn’t enjoy the attention – you absolutely should. But I do think that if you want to avoid a potentially hurtful situation, you should be aware of their charming ways. Make sure that before you react to anything they say, that you give yourself some breathing room and some perspective. You will find that once you are away from them, you think a little more clearly. And to all those sweet talkers out there...don’t stop. We love it. We just have to learn to be in control..